There seems to be this rule when it comes to dating that one must be sacrificial and willing to withstand all types of perpetual bullshit in order to be a good woman. I’m here to tell you today that this notion of the “ride or die” chick is a setup sis! Men have a thousand and one reasons as to why you should experience long suffering and have the patience of a crocodile hunting prey. It is not necessary. Stop blindly falling for the okey-doke when the truth will suffice.

You can love someone wholeheartedly but if they are not reciprocal in loving you then you are wasting your time. Even engaging in a relationship that you recognize is going nowhere is wasting precious life moments that you can’t get back. It is true that all of these encounters pose as life’s lessons but why take your self through the fire? Why give freely your love to someone who occasionally sleeps with your neighbor? or maybe never makes you a priority? I am a firm believer that there are several somebodies in this world for each individual. So don’t feel like you have to settle.

If loving someone hurts more than it feels good, ask yourself is it worth the time and effort you are putting into it. Now, I’m not necessarily talking to my married folks. I’m more so speaking to my single ladies who are out here like Mary J. Blige, loving without a limit. You see where that got her! No, seriously…we have all at one point or another have been a fool for love (if you haven’t count your blessings) but that doesn’t mean that you continue to repeat yesterdays mistakes. You are out here calling all of your girlfriends, crying over a man that is face planting in another woman’s bosom at this very moment…it’s not worth it sis! Girl stop complaining about your bad choices. You clearly see and/or saw those flags waving and thought to yourself, “Self…we accept the challenge!” or “Challenge accepted.” It’s okay to give up and move on. Don’t worry about what others will think or say when it comes to protecting your heart and time. Stop believing your own lies. Move forward. Progress. Set up Boundaries! Get rid of the No Limit Soldier ideology!

Whatever you do…Girl Stop Complaining!
Samantha A.