We look at our children and we see so many possibilities for their future. We hope for greatness, we pray for happiness and tell them to strive for success. We never look at our children (hopefully) and see disappointment, missed opportunities, failed efforts and a laundry list of complaints in their future. We don’t think that they wont be successful. We tell our children that they can be anything they want to be…even #POTUS! However, when we look in the mirror we sometimes face self-doubt, low self-esteem, ideals of failure, insecurities, lack of success, missed opportunities and disappointment. It shouldn’t be this way!

Perhaps your parents never told you that you were great, maybe they weren’t around, perhaps you made some mistakes (or as I like to call it…you had some learning opportunities) and now you are doubtful about things that you want to do or wanted to be in your life. You look in the mirror and you don’t see the woman you want to be or even the woman that you want your daughter to be. You are defeated, beat down by the world, depressed about your current lot in life and want change. You may be actively working toward it now but don’t have the attitude of a success in the making. You are the mirror for which your child will look to emulate. You have to acknowledge that even if you aren’t where you want to be, you aren’t stuck. It’s not a permanent position and you have the ability to change your situation.

Are you the woman you want to be? the woman you want your daughter to be?

It’s never as simple as I make it out to be of course, but ask your self some questions.

• Am I trying hard enough?
• What can I do differently?
• How do I want my life to be?
• Are there examples of what I want my life to look like?
• What does my child see when they look at me?
• Am I happy with my life?
• What would I change?
• Where will I be in 6months? 1 year? 2 years? 10 years?
• What do I want my daughter to know about life?
• Am I being positive about my future?

There is no knight in shining armor that’s going to come and give you a happy ending. Disney isn’t writing the story of your life, you are! So you have to be proactive and get out of the passenger seat of your carriage and take the reigns. Get a grip! Make a list of things you want to accomplish, whether it’s weight goals, career goals, relationship goals, financial, etc. Get a mental picture of what you want it to look like and then start writing down steps to get to those goals. Be strategic, be bold, be daring! Your daughter will love you no matter what but she will love even more for teaching her to be a fearless, happy, successful, goal digging monster!

Be the mirror for your daughter or at least be able to look in the mirror at yourself!

p.s~ Girl, Stop Complaining